The holidays can be incredibly difficult for those who have recently divorced. Feelings of loss, sadness, and even anger can become more intense as co-workers and friends celebrate with their families. This experience is common, and these feelings are normal as you adjust to your new life. Fortunately, you are not alone; many others have gone before you. As a family law firm built on three decades of experience, we have seen what works and what doesn’t when it comes to getting through the holidays.
Seek Help When You Need It
First and foremost, do not hesitate to get help if you feel overwhelmed with negative emotions. Reach out to a trusted friend you can confide in or a family member you can count on. Share what you are going through and that you need someone to lean on to help you get through this difficult time. You may be surprised by how many people you have in your life who understand what you are going through.
However, a friend or family member may be unable to give you the help you need. Seek professional help if the emotions are overwhelming and are impacting your ability to meet your responsibilities.
Surround Yourself with Friends and Family
Do not isolate yourself, as it will only intensify your feelings of sadness and loneliness. Make time to get together with friends for coffee or dinner. Go to the family holiday party even if your not-so-favorite cousin will be there, or you don’t want to run into your nosy aunt. If you do not have family or many friends nearby, consider joining a group or taking an in-person class to meet new people and give yourself something to do.
The holidays can be especially difficult if you have children. In addition to buying them gifts, there are holiday concerts and celebrations. Be prepared for forgotten instruments, lost clothing, and last-minute plan changes. Being flexible ensures that the holidays are enjoyable for your children. Knowing you did what you could to make the holidays easier for them can help you manage your emotions.
Many organizations are looking for help during the holiday season. Volunteering is a great way to give to a good cause and can help you put your own situation in perspective.
Create New Traditions
One of the reasons you got divorced was because you wanted a better future. Embrace your new freedom and create some new holiday traditions. Whether it is an event or a meal, it’s never too late to start something new that will bring meaning and joy to your life for years.
Contact Simpson Legal Group if You Have Post-Divorce Issues You Can’t Resolve
Unfortunately, many people struggle during the holidays because they are still having issues with their ex-spouse. We, at Simpson Legal Group, are here if you want to assist you should you need help in the future. Contact us today at 712-256-9899 to schedule a consultation.